My Web Designer Is Stalking Me...

At first it was like any other business relationship. We worked together and got along great. Sure we butted heads once in a while over the structure of my website, but that's to be expected. And then when the site was finished, I wrote her a check and said goodbye. I thought I would never hear from her again...

Boy, was I wrong.

As part of our deal, she designed the website so I would have an easy time updating it. Which is great, because I'm not good at that stuff. Now, I can update and change the website when I want - which I have been planning to do, but I have been really busy and haven't gotten around to it.

At first I got a call here and there saying, "Oh, I see you haven't updated your site. Are you having problems with it? Let me know and I will help." I thought that was really sweet of her. After all, she didn't have to check up on it, her job was done.

But it wasn't sweet at all. The calls got more frequent.

"Hey, what's the deal? I see you still haven't updated your site. What's the matter?"

"Do you think you can just ignore it and not pay any attention to it? You don't care about it, you never cared about it. The only thing you care about is yourself!"

I tried to explain to her that I have been working and that I would be off soon and start updating it... But she wasn't hearing any of that.

"This is ridiculous! I'm gonna take your website down! I know the passwords. I can do it! Try and stop me! I'm serious, try and stop me! The others tried to stop me, they couldn't! And you won't either!

I pleaded with her. I said I would update it. Everything: my stand up dates, my resume, my podcast. I even promised her that I would start blogging on a regular basis.

"Blogging? Really?"

I assured her that I would even start blogging.

And then she held the tears back the best that she could...

"Really? You promise? I'm sorry. I don't know why I get like this sometimes... I just care so much you know? It's hard for me to let go and just walk away like nothing ever happened."

I told her that it wasn't her and that it was all me. I wasn't ready for the kind of commitment that this would take and that I should have known better. I apologized again and told her I was gonna try harder.

We hung up the phone.

That was the last that I've heard from her. I figure as long as I keep my site up to date I don't think I should have any more problems from her.

Uh... Wait.

I think I just saw her drive past my window.